I recieved the passage below in an email and thought I would share…
Good Black Men are indeed all around us. We pass them on the streets, in the malls and the halls at work. Most we can’t see because we don’t know what a good man really looks like. He usually isn’t flashy enough or rich enough to turn our heads. He might not wear a suit, push a Lexus, be a
thug, rapper, or baller/shot caller. He might not have a body like Tyson with a Denzel face. But, as you mature, you realize it’s better to find someone who’s got your back rather than someone who turns your head.
A good man doesn’t agree wholeheartedly with everything you say. He doesn’t just tell you what you want to hear and do the opposite. He doesn’t declare how sensitive, sweet, caring, sincere, yada, yada he is (he won’t have to because it shows). He has his own opinions and yours may clash, but he doesn’t have to degrade you to prove he’s right. He even admits at times to being wrong, especially if you are willing to do the same.
A good man is not going to meet every item on your checklist. He is human with frailties and faults mixed in with all of his wonderful, strong attributes. He needs! your love and respect. He needs to feel that you don’t live to “catch” him doing something wrong so you can declare, Aha! I
knew you were a dog!
A good man isn’t insecure about his woman having great achievements. In fact he is her number one supporter and becomes disappointed with her when she begins to lose herself, for the sake of “not hurting his feelings, or I just want to make him happy.” His happiness comes with seeing her
excel in her dreams and accomplishing her goals. For as she excels and is exalted, a good woman will bring her good man right along with her.
A good man doesn’t necessarily give you a huge birthday or Valentine’s gift. He shows his love in the ways that are comfortable to him. Don’t judge him by TV standards. No one is really living a fairy tale. You’ll miss out on your own fairy tale by buying into the myth that our men are no good. It’s just not true.
A good man takes care of his children. He does not need to be told to do this or how to take care of his other responsibilities, he does it because he is suppose to. He may falter at times, but he consistently meets the demands put on him by God, society, family, and particularly himself.
A good man does not have to scream to be heard. His actions scream loud enough for one who is listening to hear.
A good man does not fight every battle, just the important ones. He knows when to walk away and when to come back and fight another day on his own terms. A good man knows how to say “I’m sorry.”
A good man never gives up, but stands up for what he believes is right.
A good Black man does not bring you down nor make you even, instead he support! s you to make you better through word and deed.
Black Men, we salute you, and thank you for who you are and all you’ve done.
Pass this along to some of the “Good Black Men” you know and a few
women that need to read it … so that they can recognize a Good Black Man.