Another Good Read…

Another good read sent to me…

They call it the “Quarter-life Crisis.” It is when you stop going along
with the crowd and start realizing that there are many things about
yourself that you didn’t know and may not like. You start feeling
insecure and wonder where you will be in a year or two, but then get
scared because you barely know where you are now.

You start realizing that people are selfish and that, maybe, those
friends that you thought you were so close to aren’t exactly the
greatest people you have ever met, and the people you have lost touch
with are some of the most important ones. What you don’t recognize is
that they are realizing that too, and aren’t really cold, catty, mean or
insincere, but that they are as confused as you. You look at your job…
and it is not even close to what you thought you would be doing, or
maybe you are looking for a job and realizing that you are going to have
to start at the bottom and that scares you. Your opinions have gotten
stronger. You see what others are doing and find yourself judging more
than usual because suddenly you realize that you have certain boundaries
in your life and are constantly adding things to your list of what is
acceptable and what isn’t. One minute, you are insecure and then the
next, secure. You laugh and cry with the greatest force of your life.
You feel alone and scared and confused. Suddenly, change is the enemy
and you try and cling on to the past with dear life, but soon realize
that the past is drifting further and further away, and there is nothing
to do but stay where you are or move forward. You get your heart broken
and wonder how someone you loved could do such damage to you. Or you lie
in bed and wonder why you can’t meet anyone decent enough that you want
to get to know better. Or maybe you love someone but love someone else
too and cannot figure out why you are doing this because you know that
you aren’t a bad person. One night stands and random hook ups start to
look cheap. Getting wasted and acting like an idiot starts to look
pathetic. You go through the same emotions and questions over and over,
and talk with your friends about the same topics because you cannot seem
to make a decision. You worry about loans, money, the future and making
a life for yourself… and while winning the race would be great, right
now you’d just like to be a contender! What you may not realize is that
everyone reading this relates to it. We are in our best of times and our
worst of times, trying as hard as we can to figure this whole thing out.

– Written by Brenda Della Casa

5 Replies to “Another Good Read…”

  1. Stephanie had this on her webpage a few years ago. When I first read it, I was like wow that is totally me. Now I only feel like that sometimes, but atleast I’m not where I use to be. We need to remember that God has a different plan for all of us. There is no need to be sad or compare your life to others. Everything will come in due season.

  2. Dear Sir or Madam:

    My editor showed me that my Quarter Life Crisis piece is on the Internet without crediting me. This comes after the piece being forwarded to a friend as an email forward without my name. Heartbreaking for a writer.

    I wrote this piece in an email in April 2001 for my friends and pitched it to Play Magazine in Washington, DC later that year. The piece is written about many of those friends and what I was going through months after college. Unfortunately, this piece has been posted on the Internet without crediting me, which is disheartening.

    I have the original email that was sent as well as many contacts who originally received this piece (for whom it was written).

    I am a writer for For Me Magazine, Women’s Day, The Phat and have a book coming out through McGraw-Hill in February 2007.

    I do not mind the piece being posted, but please credit me as it is my work and brings me great heartache to see it posted without credit.

    All of the very best to you,

    Brenda Della Casa

  3. Hello Brenda and thanks for stopping by to promote your work 😉 I can’t say much for your friends but I gave you the benefit of the doubt and credited you for your work above. Good luck with your book and keep up the good work!

    BTW – So what happened when you pitched to Play Magazine?

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